Day 9 – What If?

“Human beings are not born once and for all on the day their mothers give birth to them. Life obliges them over and over again to give birth to themselves.” ― Gabriel Garcí­a Márquez

If you die tomorrow, what would be your biggest regret? What can you do now to make sure that doesn’t happen?

My biggest of course would be that I wasn’t careful enough to avoid such an untimely death. Whether it was because I didn’t look after my body and health well enough, or didn’t look left or right before crossing the road, or wasn’t prepared enough to negotiate with terrorists. So, in that sense, I could definitely start to look after my health better, be more cautious and prep for doomsday survival.

But in my final minutes, I will probably regret that I didn’t get round to compiling a “legacy file” for my son yet. Like some sort of wonder-box of things I would like to pass onto him, stories, memories, life lessons. Things to help him understand himself better, later in life. I could isolate myself for a few weeks and get cracking to get it finished, but then I guess it would forever be a work in progress. I’m still in flux. The best thing to do is to journal, write, take photos, and make a physical or virtual wonder-box for him, that I add to on a regular basis.

If you have one year left to live, what would you do?

I would make my son’s wonder-box. I would stop working, spend quality time with my loved ones, read and learn as much about the world as I can still, and try to work my way down my bucket list, together with my family, to build more memories, things I hope to do with them over the next few years as the kids grow older.

  • Winter in Lapland (ski, northern lights, dog sleighing)
  • A nesting Christmas together (old films, gifts, board games, lots of talking and good food, lit fireplace)
  • Climb up a few more volcanoes (iceland or new zealand)
  • Camping Trip in British Columbia (hiking, rappelling, rafting, canyoning, make smores around the fire, watch sunsets & sunrises)
  • An 8-hour hike in Lake District, followed by a pub lunch.
  • Metropolitan Museum of Art, New York
  • National Museum of Anthropology, Mexico
  • Smithsonian National Air Space Museum, Washington DC
  • Go to a music festival like T in the Park, Winterpark, or similar
  • Spend time in our garden, swimming, BBQing, gardening, reading
  • Put on all my favorite music and sing & dance till the sun rises.

If you have one month left to live, what would you do?

I would make my son’s wonder-box. I would stop working, spend quality time with my loved ones,to build more memories.

If you have one week left to live, what would you do?

I would make my son’s wonder-box. I would stop working, spend quality time with my loved ones,to build more memories.

If you have one day left to live, what would you do?

Spend quality time with my loved ones, watch a last sunrise or sunset over the river.

If money were no concern, what would you be doing?

I would basically read and study, trying to connect the dots in life (science, nature, politics, psycho-social) and write articles, essays and books regardless of whether they’d be published or not. I would learn how to illustrate with gouache, mixed media, and digital techniques. And I would explore the outdoors, or start homesteading.

If you could not fail, what would you be doing?

The above: write and illustrate, and give lectures/readings, participate in leading debates. Contribute to the world intellectually. Also, homestead or live somewhere more wild like British Columbia or Alaska or New Zealand.

If you are to do something for free for the rest of your life what would you want to do?

The same as the above.